tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5264318290563303752024-03-13T10:35:49.680-07:00From 635An archive of "From 635" columns by the Rev. CJ McGregor originally posted in the 1stUUPB e-newsletter, the eBeacon, plus an assortment of other posts from Rev. CJ.
Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-19619772893957446682017-03-03T07:43:00.002-08:002017-03-03T07:43:35.140-08:00Message from Rev CJ. March 1<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; margin: 0in 0in 0pt;">
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">As I was writing for our newsletter blog I realized I have much to share with you and so I decided to send this email. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">I shared with the Congregation that I have been called as the settled minister in our Fort Myers congregation. My contract with our Congregation ends <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_375241599" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(204, 204, 204); position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">April 30</span></span>. You may have felt some changes in my presence over the last month. I've been intentional about phasing out. This does not mean I'm working less on behalf of the Congregation. I've been very involved in religious education, developing a lay pastoral care program, managing administrative projects, supervising our intern minister, pastoral care, adult education, working with community organizations, working with our board, and participating in UU Ministers Association work. I tell you this because I want you to know I'm fully in the game even though you might see me less. I'm here if you need me. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Our intern minister, Claudia Jiménez, will also be leaving 1stUUPB on <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_375241600" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(204, 204, 204); position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">April 30</span></span>. Claudia will spend her second year of her internship serving our Stuart congregation. Claudia has made an impact during her time here. Her commitment to adult education, pastoral care, and preaching has supported the work of the Congregation in a big way. Most interns are compensated for their work. Claudia is not. Her seminary expenses are quite high and her travel to us has also hit her pocketbook. It would be a supportive gesture to offer Claudia funds to attend General Assembly and her housing while she is there. If you'd like to be part of this gesture simply send your gift to the office and our office administrator, Barbara, will make sure your gift is added to the collection. We have been a teaching congregation this year and sending Claudia off in this way is the right thing to do. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Our religious education program experiences change often. However, please know that despite change we have a program prepared each <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_375241601" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(204, 204, 204); position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">Sunday</span></span>. Families can count on that. Currently Rebecca Peets is offering programming every <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_375241602" style="border-bottom: 1px solid rgb(100, 100, 100); cursor: pointer; position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">Sunday</span></span>. The Board will be working to fill a very part- time position over the next few months. </span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-82682444330333177192016-12-31T10:56:00.001-08:002016-12-31T10:56:23.277-08:00A New Year's Eve Message<div style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif;">
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Welcome to 2017! If you're like me you're glad to put 2016 behind us. Like it or not, Donald Trump will soon be inaugurated as our next President. There will also be a "Freedom Concert" in Miami on Inauguration Day that will be televised as an anti-Trump protest. I wonder how Unitarian Universalists will manage this on January 20? Whatever you do, know that our Congregation has many ways to stay informed and become active. We know the next four years will test our progressive voices, and remember, you're not alone. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">On <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_71744758" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(204, 204, 204); position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">January 19th</span></span> during our Teaching <span class="aBn" data-term="goog_71744759" style="border-bottom: 1px dashed rgb(204, 204, 204); position: relative; top: -2px; z-index: 0;" tabindex="0"><span class="aQJ" style="position: relative; top: 2px; z-index: -1;">Thursday</span></span> presentation Allen Maxwell will offer <span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> <i>WHEN THE RUBBER HITS THE ROAD: SMOOTH PAVEMENT, SKID MARKS AND CRASHES? --THE IMPLEMENTATION OF PRESIDENT-ELECT TRUMP’S CAMPAIGN PROMISES</i>. </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);"> </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0);">On the eve of Donald Trump’s inauguration, our resident and retired Professor of Political </span></span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">Science, Allen Maxwell will present his thoughts and ask you to join him in speculating </span><span style="background-color: rgba(255, 255, 255, 0); font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">about whether or not, “It could happen here.”</span></div>
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-20850781424617897942016-12-13T17:45:00.002-08:002016-12-13T17:45:58.994-08:00Commitment for 2017<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Friends,</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">The new year is around the corner and it's about this time I reflect on the past year and set goals for the new year. I guess you could call them resolutions. I wonder if you have a similar practice.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">I've decided that one thing I'll commit to in 2017 is to hold reasonable expectations of myself and for others in my life. I decided this after re-reading my favorite book on ministry leadership, <i>Leading With A Limp</i> by Dan Allendar. I love how honest Allender is. It’s refreshing because he says things that most of us are afraid to say -- the simple truth of realities. The chapter in which Allender writes this is about counting the cost of leadership. It’s simply an honest look at the unrealistic expectations we create for people.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">I'm going to be intentional about practicing what I preach and let people know I have their back, expect them to make mistakes and not be good at everything, confront them with grace and gentleness and understanding that my specific desire and expectations may not be met, and to remember they are imperfect people just like me, and that they are human, not superhuman.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Allender writes, "What we want is an illusion and we know it. We prefer the illusion because we have a deep need to be buffered from reality." and that "we inflict on a few while we comfort ourselves that we don’t have the right stuff to pull it off." Strong words, words that I rejected at first reading, but found myself understanding them the more I thought about it.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">I wonder, as imperfect humans, what do we avoid about the reality of ourselves when we are unreasonable with our expectations for others? For me, I can unreasonably expect people to be all I need or desire because that's who I want to be, and it's impossible. It's good to step back and say. "It's not about me in this moment." </span><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">I wonder if you might benefit from stepping back and realizing that your expectations for perfection from others, thus creating an illusion of reality, is because of your own fear of not being the perfect superhuman. Being compassionate toward ourselves will lead us to show compassion to others. Compassion is the root to all that we hold dear in our UU faith. I look forward to adjusting my expectations and reminding myself I am beautifully imperfect and will not have my every need and desire met because those around me are beautifully imperfect too. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Like the world around us congregations, too, have seasons. The sunshine of summer, the rain of spring, the crispness of fall, and the cold of winter. Even if we experience seasons in a different way in Florida we can imagine the cycle. There are bright times and grey times in the cycle and in congregations. As we will learn during our Yule service in December, in the grey times there is always hope and anticipation of returning light. I no doubt have caused confusion and some might view my willingness to continue to serve you as a bright time. Others may feel otherwise. We do find common ground in our current "season" within our Congregation. Each of us cares for the Congregation and act not to be a fly in the ointment or to create an "us" versus "them." Our love for our tradition and community is no less no matter where we stand. If we are to serve one another and the world we will need to explore all options and live in a bit of awkwardness. Even those options we are uncomfortable with. Let us be grateful that we need not stand on one side of the line or the other. Let us be grateful we stand on common ground of love for our beloved church. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Let us put aside this work for one or two days to be fully present to those we love and care for. No matter your tradition this time of year I wish you peace, hope, and thanksgiving. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;">Blessings, Rev. CJ</span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-45153963751851499702016-09-26T12:11:00.003-07:002016-09-26T12:17:43.359-07:00Forever Connected, Grateful<span style="background-color: white; color: #222222;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif; font-size: large;">Dear Ones,</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">There is a saying in developmental ministry, "A good minister knows when to leave." A developmental minister arrives to support the congregation to move toward health. The developmental minister knows that while doing that work there will be some peaks and valleys in their relation to the congregation.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I'm proud of where the congregation will be in 2017 when I leave, compared to when I arrived in 2013. Many have observed the same. Just as in the do-it-yourself project I mentioned above, I know when my capacity to do the work is done and when it is time for you to invite another colleague to move the congregation on the next leg of the journey.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I know the announcement of my departure might have been surprising, disappointing, and -- for some -- a relief. All of these reactions are valid. All love this congregation.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I'm not going to leave this congregation feeling upset. Truth be told I expected to move toward settled ministry, but it wasn't in the cards. Although I worry about some voices capturing the congregation, I know that your next minister will pick up where I've left off in helping some in understanding being in relationship with ministers. I know I've learned a lot about being in relationship with a congregation. That said, it's important to remember the strength of this congregation, the good work of this congregation, and the deep connections within this congregation. No matter who your minister is, this congregation has the grit and vision to be a strong presence and a place for all to commit themselves to reason, justice and compassion.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><span style="background-color: white; color: #222222; font-family: Trebuchet MS, sans-serif;">I ask you to remember why you are part of this beloved community. I love serving this congregation and will always hold up how amazing the people in this congregation are. I'm truly blessed to have had your care and this experience. We have shared so many laughs, tender moments, and truly walked together. We are forever connected and I am grateful.<br /><br />Blessings, CJ</span></span><br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-8515281786981076832016-08-02T17:58:00.000-07:002016-08-02T17:58:09.414-07:00August 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I'm presently in the Adirondacks winding up my time here preparing for my return to Florida. I always get what some might call the "church itch" this time of year. That is, I am eager and ready to return to congregational life.<br /><br />As your minister I have the privilege of having a birds eye view of congregational life and the year ahead of us. I'm excited by the opportunities that some of our present challenges will bring. Claudia, our Intern Minister joins us this month. Watch your newsletter for Claudia's schedule week to week. We have a hand in Claudia's formation as she moves toward ordination as a Unitarian Universalist minister. I already know that we will be blessed by her presence here.<br /><br />Our board and committees have a lot in store for us. We will go deeper in racial justice, we will have a new website, membership will have a new focus with "200 by 2020" as their guide, there will be a concert series with many local musicians, our focus on financial sustainability will be laser sharp, your voice and ideas will be honored like never before, and our visibility in our area will increase. The total sum being revitalization.<br /><br />Claudia and I will offer sermons this fall that will offer some comfort and inspiration as to how to live our Unitarian Universalist values and principles in what promises to be a difficult social and political time. Claudia begins with her sermon on hope and humility and I will offer a sermon on how to live and understand our UU faith amid troubling times. I am returning to the office on August 7th, we will welcome Claudia the weekend of August 21st when she will be preaching, and I will return to our pulpit on August 28th. I am glad to be among you once again.<br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-69351274039051663692016-07-26T14:44:00.001-07:002016-07-26T14:44:34.919-07:00Not a Rule Follower<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">I tend not to follow the rules. Just ask the Catholic nuns who exhaustingly tried to rear me. There are several unwritten rules of ministry. I'm afraid I've broken some rules since I joined you in 2013. For example, I once moved all the tables in Ministers Hall. I once moved the pulpit to the floor as an experiment. A new minister should never do that. When a minister arrives at a congregation his or her mantra should be, "Change is undesirable at this time...change is undesirable at this time...." Sometimes it's necessary to not follow the rules. For me rules are worth breaking if it's for the sake of growth for us as individuals, our spiritual maturity, and if the rule breaking will move us closer to the congregation you dream of. I'm sure you could share your own instances where not following the rules may be justified.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">I've led you to an announcement. I have decided, as proposed to the Sanctuary Services Group, to change the format of the order of service. Take a few deep breaths and let me explain. I've observed that you wish to be better connected, to know the joys and concerns in our lives, to be reminded of what is going on in our congregational life. I've studied orders of service from many congregations. I believe I've developed an order of service that will better meet our evolving needs.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">I've not changed most of what you find in our current order of service. I've formatted the order of service to allow us to connect, be informed, and act as valuable resource for visitors. The new format makes the order of service living. It's like stepping into a snapshot of our congregational life. It demonstrates how we worship, how we care for one another, and how we offer opportunities to grow deeper in our beliefs.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">I had reservations about making this change. The order of service in congregations is a "sacred cow." As a sacred cow the order of service has been immune to tampering. Sometimes we create sacred cows that hold us back. In this instance I believe that our order of service could serve us, and our visitors, better. The change will move us closer to becoming the congregation we want to be. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">I'm telling you this because the order of service you receive will soon change. I care that you understand that this wasn't a case of my preference or an impulsive decision. The change is based on what you, the congregation, is asking for. Try it on. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS", sans-serif; font-size: large;">May we remain connected, cared for, and clued in. </span><br />
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<br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-60470182727232773672016-07-14T08:05:00.002-07:002016-07-14T08:05:31.731-07:00July 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />So much has happened in our country this past week. So much to digest, to consider, and to find our way out of. I'm sure your heart is as heavy and your confusion and anxiety might have increased like mine has. I hold all that has happened and discern what my response should be as your minister and how I might comfort the Congregation and lead our Congregation to a response worthy of our Unitarian Universalist faith. <br /><br />I have a new hero. His name is David Brown and he is the Chief of Police in Dallas, Texas. He is my hero because I admire his courage, his reproach of conventional wisdom, and his call for all of us to do the right thing no matter what. These attributes might lead us in the right direction in responding to personal, local, and global issues. You may know that Chief Brown encouraged those who have been protesting to get off the protest line and apply for a job. Moving from frustration to community service. “We’re hiring,” he said. “Get out of that protest line and put in an application. We'll put you in your neighborhood and help you resolve some of these problems." For me, this isn't knocking the right and decision to protest. Chief Brown is simply offering another way. A way that is more likely to build trust and relationships. <br /><br /><br />I've been thinking a lot about this idea. What would happen if we got off the protest line and took ownership of our neighborhood in cooperation with other neighborhoods moving toward a common purpose? I know for sure that this notion decreases my anxiety of responding because it makes the work doable and not so overwhelming. I like the idea of trying something different; a new approach. <br /><br />The New York Times reports that during a news conference last Monday, in which he offered new details about the attack, Chief Brown commended the success of the “community policing” model he favors, which has given him a national reputation as a reformer focused on defusing tensions between police and minorities. Again by criticizing conventional wisdom, challenging the status quo, and worrying about doing what is right.<br /><br />What does this mean for us? How will we respond as a Congregation? I know we have a Justice Ministry that has already been doing the work. One of the best ways we can support Black Lives Matter and better understand the tension between law enforcement and minorities is to work to understand and unveil white privilege. Our Justice Action Ministry has already held workshops and I know will offer additional opportunities to us in understanding and naming white privilege without guilt. <br /><br />We can't lead the efforts of Black Lives Matters, but as allies we can engage black communities, organizations, and congregations to listen and learn. As your minister, a guide to leading you to who you want to be as a Congregation, it is my important task to support and promote the efforts of our Justice Active Ministry. As pastor I provide comfort and counsel, as preacher I use our pulpit to inspire the Congregation to name the problem and become part of the solution, and as teacher I make available to you opportunities to reflect on privilege and opportunities to engage with stakeholders of the movement to ease, to resolve, racial tensions that are ripping our communities apart. Along with the Justice Action Ministry I can best serve you by giving you the tools you'll need to respond as well as the inspiration to use them. We need to look to Chief Brown for inspiration as well. We might take applications of our own. <br /><br />Living a life free of anxiety for all that is happening around us seems more difficult these days. Know that I am here to comfort, to listen, and offer what I can to equip you to manage in these troubled times. <br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ. </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-4176410608298727282016-06-20T07:22:00.000-07:002016-06-20T07:29:39.375-07:00Call to Action<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">I gave those assembled a call to action related to advocacy for sensible gun policy during our service on Sunday. I'm grateful the message was well received. I know you're waiting to hear some of what you might do to answer this call. I've listed a few things here for us and others:<br /><br />1. Watch how your Senator votes today, Monday, June 20th. Go to http://nyti.ms/28Iglmi or other sites for more information. Advocate accordingly. <br /><br />2. Lobby County Commissioners for local policy changes. Go to pbcgov.com<br /><br />3. Join the Palm Beach County Progressive Roundtable. We don't have to reinvent the wheel. This group makes sure all progressive grassroots organizations are collaborative in advocacy. <br /><br />4. Support organizations with our progressive values. <br /><br />5. Volunteer in campaigns that bring the best candidates to the White House, the Senate, and Congress. <br /><br />6. Lobby Congressman Patrick Murphy. <br />2000 PGA Blvd. Suite A3220 Palm Beach Gardens, FL 33408 phone 561.253.8433 Fax 561.253.8436<br /><br />7. Join The Coalition to Stop Gun Violence on Facebook <br /><br />8. Watch for upcoming speakers and events in our congregation. <br /><br />If you are not online simply call our office for printed information related to the websites above. <br /><br />Go to http://www.lwvwa.org/pdfs/lobby_your_legislator<br />to learn about how to lobby your legislator. <br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ <br /> </span></span><br />
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Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-70005376637962817202016-06-13T07:58:00.001-07:002016-06-13T07:58:08.515-07:00I'm Proud of Us<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I'm proud of us. I'm proud that we are hosting families this week.
Families that are homeless. I can't help thinking, "There but for the
grace of what I call God go I." People that have families and jobs but
simply do not earn enough to secure housing. Imagine the relief you
might feel when you and your children know where there meals are coming
from and where they will sleep without needing to move for six days. <br /><br />I'm
proud of us. I'm proud that we are practicing what we preach when we
name freedom of belief as foundational to our faith. Our Congregation
has welcomed the Palm Beach Pagans with open arms and minds. Like UU's,
Pagans are misunderstood and it's hard to find allies in this culture.
This group has already brought so much to our Congregational life. I
hope to see you at the Summer Solstice ritual and BBQ this Saturday at
3pm. I'm grateful for what we have in common and our deliberate
community of free thinkers. <br /><br />I'm proud of us. I've observed that
we have increasingly become more concerned with fellowship, ministry to
one another, and spiritual growth. This is why we gather. Not to work
out our individual needs, but to create beloved community. <br /><br />I'm
proud to serve our Congregation, which continues to innovate, embrace
change, create opportunities to be sure our foundation remains solid and
we remain relevant. I hope you are proud.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I am stepping back in a
couple of weeks as I will retreat for the month of July. We've done
holy work this year and it is time for all of us to rest knowing we've
earned it. Have a safe and relaxing summer. <br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Blessings, Rev. CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-75561804429438956572016-05-09T08:10:00.001-07:002016-05-09T08:10:19.536-07:00May 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Every year around this time I have an uneasy
feeling. Our congregation changes as our snowbirds fly north. I have
grown to anticipate this season of migration, but I don't like it. I
prefer we be together. Our snowbirds offer us so much through their
ministries. They support and sustain our congregation in many ways.
Their return is something to look forward to. <br /><br />As I make my own
plans to rove this summer I'm planning for our next church year. There
is lots to look forward to. One thing in particular is our Intern
Minister, Claudia Jiminez. Claudia will be preaching here on May 22 and
will offer time for a Q & A during coffee hour. Claudia will also be
meeting with our Board of Trustees in anticipation of a formal
invitation to join us. I do hope your curiosity will bring you to our
service on May 22. <br /><br />Once formally invited, Claudia will be an
additional religious professional on campus. She will be here for two
years and part-time. This internship is important in Claudia's
ministerial formation as she prepares for ordained UU ministry. It is
important in the life of our Congregation as we act as a teaching
congregation and take part in training and forming future ministers. I
feel strongly that our Congregation has so much to offer a student
minister. We are a rich training ground that knows how to hold others in
care. Please do become involved in Claudia's formation. <br /><br />Blessings, CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-4363011917941059162016-03-29T17:42:00.002-07:002016-03-29T17:42:41.329-07:00April 2016<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />Over the weekend I officiated the memorial service for Charlotte Callahan. As her husband Jim and their children shared stories of Charlotte I was touched. I learned a lot about Charlotte and her life-long commitment to fairness and justice. I also learned that Charlotte is an example of how we can transform the world. Her family shared examples of how she changed the world one person at a time.<br /><br />You may have heard me say over and over again that we don't necessarily need to march or protest to bring about change. We can be intentional about changing minds one person at time through conversation, advocacy, and living as an example. While at Charlotte's service I was approached by two people I had never met. They thanked me for my articles in the Palm Beach Post and told me, "You are our voice. Please continue." I assured them that I would, we would.<br /><br />We sometimes never know the lives we are touching or the change we are creating. I've been inspired to live like Charlotte lived.<br /><br />Blessings, CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-13998040401198329562016-03-21T12:15:00.000-07:002016-03-21T12:15:09.959-07:00March 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">In his sermon yesterday, Mathew Sydney described one of the tenets of his faith as honoring and actively caring for the earth. The beautiful way he articulated it captivated me. It's the way I articulate our ministry. Look around you. Look at all we do to transform lives through liberal religious community. Our mission. We respond to many calls for help from and to be allies to many in our community. We are able to gather freely and welcome those who are looking for a spiritual home. We are the liberal voice in our area. We have buildings that offer space for learning, worship, and outreach to so many.<br /><br />And so we need to actively care for our Congregation and its people. If you support an organization financially I urge you to make our Congregation a priority. Here you build your spiritual home that helps you articulate your values, live your values, and one that will support you with learning, friendship, and fellowship. We need to remain strong and viable. We need staff, we need buildings, we need programs. If you have yet to pledge your support, I implore you to pay attention to this task. If you want to invest in justice, equity, and compassion you have the opportunity to do so. Help me guide a ministry that is bold and life changing.<br /><br />In faith, Rev. CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-43995380967320610172016-02-01T08:44:00.001-08:002016-02-01T08:44:30.743-08:00February 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">The past couple of months have been busy for pastoral care. There have been a few instances in particular that caused me to pause and realize that we as a congregation sometimes have no idea what our fellow congregants might be managing, battling, or reconciling. Imagine sitting in service on Sunday and looking to your left and to your right. What are these dear people holding that we may never know about.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />That is, unless we ask, offer a loving supportive touch, and take interest. We are a family with family dynamics and typical family struggles. But our struggles are sometimes hidden, unknown, and held silently from one another. It's what we do as humans.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">We believe we can handle everything on our own. Our pride and ego stand in the way. Shame and the thought of being a burden creep in.<br />What do we expect from one another? I mean our congregational relationships should be deep, connected, without judgement and holy honesty. That is the kind of place we are. A place where you can put your burdens down, rest, exhale and feel and embrace.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">During this month of love I encourage you to look left and right and ask yourself, "What is the most loving thing I could do?" It is within this congregational culture that we thrive and become a beloved community -- the important stuff. As one person we may not change the world but we can change the world of one.<br />Rev. CJ<br /></span></span><br /><br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-8080004714217339392016-01-19T12:48:00.001-08:002016-01-19T12:48:12.997-08:00January 18, 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />This past week was challenging. We hosted most of our usual renters, our Buddhist friends, and two families that are homeless. I asked you to make sacrifices of your time, space, and usual comforts.<br /><br />I did wonder what it was like for you to meet in cramped spaces, have your gatherings in spaces that are not your usual spots, and what it was like to share resources. I agree that this past week wasn't the perfect week for me to agree to host families. A funny thing about the homeless -- they can't plan when they will need us. But we were there when they needed us.<br /><br />I wondered about other things this week too. What is it like to be homeless? What is it like not knowing where your next meal will come from? What is it like living in a classroom with a baby and feeling like you're imposing? What is it like not having a consistent space where you can gather with others of your faith? One thing that comforted me this week was knowing we were living our mission.<br /><br />Although the temporary circumstances of being overbooked may have made us uncomfortable we did <i><u>transform lives through liberal religious community</u></i>. You see, our mission isn't to transform lives through our meetings. When we are challenged by not having our usual comforts it's a time for us to step back and realize the truly important work of our beloved community.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Would I host families in a week with so many other happenings again? No. But, if the need presented itself I would respond. Thank you for your support and patience.<br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-72712216299469497252015-12-23T14:46:00.001-08:002015-12-23T14:46:18.963-08:00January 2016<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">For a moment last month I realized I was human. Having had a difficult and emotional month of ministry I found myself stepping back and not being as present as I typically am. You've noticed.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I was hard on myself for taking the time to step back, discern, and increase my time for spiritual practice. I thought that as the minister this "luxury" couldn't be mine. But, I'm brave enough to say that isn't true. When stuck in difficulty we should all have the opportunity to step back. It's healthy and we return renewed and revived with deeper understandings.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />Sometimes we lack compassion for oneself and the compassion that we should expect from others. I share my intimate lesson lesson with you as minister, as teacher. As a fellow human being, I too have the same struggles and emotional processes that you do. My hope is that my sharing will lead you to share with me and others.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />I'm stepping out of the shadows having taken the time to think and to understand my call more deeply. It was awkward and, for some of you, concerning. I thank you for waiting patiently and for your concern. I hope when you step back sometime you will have the love and support I received.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />We will travel many places this year in our congregational life. Let us be gentle with one another and our spirits. You are truly dear to me.<br /><br />In faith, Rev. CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-51408571206788707142015-11-27T08:06:00.000-08:002015-11-27T08:07:27.151-08:00December, 2015<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "trebuchet ms" , sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />As always I am in disbelief that another year will soon pass. It is this time of year many are consumed by deciding which behaviors they will change for the new year or making resolutions. I stopped making resolutions a long time ago. I focus on the Roman god Janus. Looking back as well as looking forward. I've learned a lot about myself, and you, over the past year, particularly in the past few months.<br /><br />Looking back I'm able to pick out a few major lessons like sometimes ego can blind you to realities, email stinks, most of the time, to communicate effectively, and that when relationships break we can repair them instead of throwing them away. Looking ahead I've decided to change a few things. Taking the next step in caring for my health as well as making a few adjustments in my ministry are commitments I'll be making.<br /><br />I'm presently engaged in changing and enhancing my sermon writing and delivery. I've realized that writing and delivering sermons has become more like an errand for me. My sermons fill the space and serve their function. But I see sermon writing as a craft, one that exercises passion and wish to return to that. Many ministers face this dilemma sooner or later. If I allow my ego to step aside I will better be able to inspire.<br /><br />My generation is very comfortable with email and social media to communicate. The problem is that others feel differently and perhaps see a phone call or face to face contact as the best way to communicate. Recognizing that email allows the misinterpretation of tone and intent I'm committing to using email less this year which will save me headache and heartache in my ministry.<br /><br />Like precious furniture I have some relationships in the congregation in storage waiting for repair. We all do or say things that effect our relationships even if there was no intention present. I am no different. I do believe that when something we care for is broken we should fix it rather than throw it away. I'm committed to begin this work.<br /><br />Reflecting on where and who we have been and where and who we would like to be may be a comfortable process this time of year. I hope you, too, might take this time for discernment. It is right and meaningful work. May each of be blessed in the New Year.<br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-42633172647971272742015-11-03T14:32:00.000-08:002015-11-03T14:32:22.801-08:00November 2015<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Friends,<br /><br />Most of you know I spent nearly a week in Mount Dora, Florida recently with my colleagues. Twice each year all the ministers in Florida gather for collegiality, development, and organizational matters of the Florida Unitarian Universalist Ministers Association ( FUUMA). I serve on the executive committee of FUUMA as a Good Officer. This means I help guide FUUMA as well as act as minister to the ministers of Florida.<br /><br />During my time in Mount Dora I was able to worship twice each day and had time for spiritual practice. We engaged a program around Black Lives Matter. I shared our experiences. I also met an inspiring black minister, Rev. Poole, who has -- against all odds -- planted the Grace African Methodist Episcopal Church in The Villages in Marion county. Rev. Poole's father was the president of the NAACP during the Civil Rights movement and succeeded the president who's home was bombed and destroyed. This offers a unique perspective on the lives of people who are black and the movement. I would have joined his congregation as a member on the spot. He was that inspiring!<br /><br />I lead a workshop with the second Good Officer, the Rev. Dr. Sara Zimmerman. She will be our guest speaker in November. UU Ministers are held accountable to a code of ethics that guides our behavior and relationships with each other and those we serve in our congregations. New guidelines are being considered around ministers and social media. Sara and I presented this information and facilitated a feedback session with our colleagues. This feedback is given to the Guidelines Committee so guidelines can be created and eventually adopted. I also spent time with the executive committee managing FUUMA issues and planning.<br /><br />I share this with you because I want you to understand how your minister seeks development and serves in other capacities. My most important role is to serve our congregation. One that is dear to me. I also serve Unitarian Universalism. I contribute to FUUMA, I've served the UUA on committees, and I'm an Adjunct Professor of Ministerial Formation at Meadville Lombard Theological School. I contribute to the formation of future ministers of our faith. I also serve the free church. I contribute to promoting the mission and ideals of the free church in the world.<br /><br />I serve as minister, teacher, and believer. Unitarian Universalism goes beyond our walls. There are many ways to serve our movement, our tradition, and our faith. A good place to start is within our congregation, but I hope your arms and heart will stretch wider as you consider how you can best serve our saving faith.<br /><br />Blessings, Rev. CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-18697975832531078102015-09-15T11:56:00.000-07:002015-09-15T11:56:31.813-07:00September 2015<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Friends,<br /><br />Impressed yet? In August 2013 upon my arrival I was asked to work on the goal of building a cohesive and mission-driven staff. I would have never predicted the hills and valleys that we have experienced together in assembling such a dynamic team. The Congregation should be proud and blessed. I know I'm grateful as this work wasn't done in a vacuum. We all had to participate, collaborate, and trust.<br /><br />Let's reflect on one day in the life of our Congregation. On September 13th I invited our Director of Child and Youth Programs Beth Matthews to deliver a sermon in my absence. I hear she was quite successful -- you can slow down on the emails sent to me offering accolades for Beth. I wasn't surprised. Beth is a talented woman who understands who this Congregation wants to be. <br /><br />Our Sunday Music Coordinator Peilin Ko was given the theme of the service just days before our September 13th service. That was my doing. The information given to Peilin was not as in depth as she would typically get. It did not prevent Peilin from coordinating a Sunday music program that couldn't have been a better match, including offering a guest musician that had everything to do with the theme and message of the day. None of us planning the service expected Peilin to offer us this. Peilin obviously has gifts that will serve us well. Peilin has listened to you and understands what you expect in a music program and continues to deliver beautifully.<br /><br />Barbara Hatzfeld is contracted to serve as our office administrator from 9:30am to 2:30pm Monday through Friday. When you see the order of service, the ushers, the sound on many Sundays, the visors, hearing devices etc., and the extra organization for the service to run smoothly, you are witnessing some of Barbara's work on Sunday. Most of the work you do not pay Barbara to do. She sees the need and fills it. Without Barbara on September 13th the Congregation would have felt less welcomed and comfortable and the service would have felt less organized.<br /><br />We can't forget about our sexton, Willie Nelson. Willie does his work to prepare for Sunday undercover. He isn't just responsible to make sure your bathrooms are stocked, the sanctuary carpets are vacuumed, or the chairs are arranged. On September 13th Willie was asked to move things in and out of the sanctuary, hang things, take things down, arrange and clean additional things and spaces. Your sidewalks were free of sand and debris, the trash our renters leave in our grass is removed, and much more. Willie's work is not typically associated with Sunday service planning -- yet it is.<br /><br />Your staff, including myself, are here to serve you. We have assembled a staff that will bring you closer and closer to the mission of our Congregation. I'm highlighting September 13th because your staff showed up for you. We are achieving the goals set for a staff team by the Congregation in 2013. It is right to pause and reflect on our growth. No, not the growth charted for membership. Rather the growth we have achieved in becoming more deeply aware of our strengths, our challenges, and our opportunities. We can reflect on the growth of being connected to one another in a more calm and compassionate way.<br /><br />We are here to serve you. How may we help?<br /><br />Rev. CJ</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-22679481104673224002015-08-03T17:11:00.000-07:002015-08-03T17:11:03.784-07:00Grateful in August<span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: large;">August arrives. I'm preparing to return home, and I'm ready. I'm beginning to miss my routine and my work. This internal signal tells me it's time to go. Richard and I will be driving home together. Each summer as I leave our home here in New York and its surroundings I say a ritual thank you. Yes, I literally thank the river, thank the heron and otter families, thank the long and quiet roads, thank the spaces between the branches in the trees for inspiring my imagination, thank the Queen Anne's lace, and as I turn and step out of the door I look around one last time and say, "Thank you."<br /><br />My gratefulness sometimes comes from a place of recognizing the privilege of having our home and space in New York. However, when I leave I feel I need to say, "see you next summer" like a summer camp buddy that shares your summer year after year. Not unlike growing with a dear friend, this place has held me, has celebrated with me, has witnessed life at its raw core. It has witnessed babies, now college bound, grow and delight us and mourns when some never return.<br /><br />It's amazing what a physical place can mean to us. It can hold us, accept us, and comfort us. I'm lucky. I have a congregation in Florida that I love and that welcomes me each late summer. When I arrive home one of the first things I do is sit in our Sanctuary. I breathe in the air that I've missed. I allow the voices and music that I've missed to surround me -- at least in my minds eye and ear. I know what it feels like to leave love, so I must know what it feels like to return to love. That is why I'm grateful. I would not know one without knowing the other. I'm on my way and am excited to see you all. </span></span><br /><br /><br />Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-64741666782769547552015-07-17T16:45:00.000-07:002015-07-17T16:45:00.694-07:00Rednecks<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />As promised I'm sending some brief words along as I vacation. I'm well. I'm rested, am enjoying much down time, swimming, boating, am steeped in nature, reading for pleasure, and traveling a bit. I'm hoping to visit some of you in Ottawa, Albany, and the Catskills soon. Montreal is lovely and lively in the summer and I'm here for another few days.<br /><br />I love the people in and around our home in the north country of New York who show their Appalachian roots. Yes, I'm in the Adirondacks but many, including some family members, are Appalachian transplants. They're quite proud to be rednecks. They aren't fond of the derogatory use of the term redneck but it's original meaning is not an insult but a badge of honor.<br /><br />Author Jonathan Vankin tells us of the Scottish rebels opposing the religious and political oppression of England's Charles I being rednecks as they signed a 17th century covenant declaring religious freedom in blood. The Scots-Irish eventually immigrated to the American colonies settling in the area known to us as the Appalachians. I, too, can trace my ancestry of individualism, religious freedom, and Scottish descent to those rednecks.<br /><br />I'm equally fascinated by the more modern understanding of redneck, which is an unsophisticated people living in rural areas. I've learned that not all rednecks are unsophisticated, uneducated, or hold offensive views. I most certainly judged these people at the beginning of the summer. I now appreciate their simple living, their being happy and grateful with what they have versus wanting more. My brother recently invited his friends for a gathering at our home in New York. As they arrived I noticed dress, speech, accent and values I'm not accustomed to in my insulated Unitarian Universalist and privileged life. Honestly, my first reaction was one of judgement. I wonder if you've been in this position. Have you given in to your quick reaction to judge?<br /><br />I've been thinking about that question on the riverbank lately. I've been examining my reactions versus my accepting and how, like a strong current, it whisks away joy and contentment from my thoughts, my interactions, and ultimately my soul. Not along ago Dr. Paul Ward shared via email this Victor Frankl quote from "Man's Search for Meaning":<br /> </span></span><br />
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<li><i><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.</span></span></i></li>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />It is a lovely quote and thanks to Paul one that is etched in my memory to recall again and again.</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />Choosing my response allows me to practice radical acceptance in the case of the rednecks I've encountered. Just by being born they, we, are entitled to the right of dignity, freedom, and to be loved-entitled to radical acceptance. They may dress, speak and live differently, they may have varying or little higher education, and their unsophisticated living may sometimes not be in my wheelhouse. But choosing to give a redneck a chance, choosing to enjoy their unsophisticated humanness, and choosing to replace judgement with the love and respect we are called to give to all as Unitarian Universalists. I wonder if you too make this choice. Our living faith is one for the times. Our ailing world can be healed by our values of freedom, compassion, and acceptance. I'm sure it begins with us as individuals. Be well. I miss you all. Rev. CJ<br /><br /><br /><br /></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-56440562688489367172015-06-29T13:20:00.003-07:002015-06-29T13:21:31.708-07:00Charleston<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />Something nagged at me telling me I had to travel to Charleston, South Carolina. I felt there was unfinished business for me if I did not bear witness to the church shootings at Emanuel AME. I took with me a chalice pin and a brief note written on a notecard from our Congregation. I added both to the condolences collecting outside of the church on behalf of us all.<br /><br />I arrived to blocked streets, the Red Cross on site, a large police presence, and barriers creating a confusing path for all wanting to join in our final steps of our pilgrimage. Hundreds of mourners were pouring out of the church and onto the street. I didn't know that inside lay Myra Thompson, dead. She was shot and killed because her skin was black. I walked a block and joined the long line of others wanting to pay their respect. I could smell something sour, something rotten. I discovered that most of the flowers laid in the past week on the sidewalk outside of the church were in decay. The stench filled my mouth and nose and rightly so. This hateful act should smell foul and make me uncomfortable. Let it be a reminder of an unjust culture that reeks of racism.<br /><br />I finally reached the church steps and climbed toward the door leading to the sanctuary. I was greeted by a member of the congregation with a kind smile and gentle hand. The stench outside had been replaced by an incredibly fresh and welcoming floral scent-obviously from the beautiful and large arrangements flanking the body of Myra Thompson. Bright light from the sanctuary chandeliers exposed the deep rich red carpets and the antiquity of the pews and other furnishings. My eyes immediately were drawn to the stained glass window that was floor to ceiling behind the pulpit. This was the pulpit that Martin Luther King, Jr. and others graced during the civil rights movement.<br /><br />I began to weep humbled by the moment and the history. I passed by the body of Myra Thompson. I paused and offered words. I remembered what Myra's brother had said about her in a news article. She was a wife, a mother, a sister, an aunt, and a cousin. She volunteered to teach Bible Study classes for years and had decided to teach only for a couple more weeks when she was killed. A few quick glances brought all of this rushing back to me. I could only ask myself, "why?"</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I followed others to the exit and as I shared glances with those who were black I wondered if they were angry with me or if they thought I had some nerve being present. They were gracious and I was experiencing white guilt. I was feeling guilty because a white man, like myself, killed nine people of color in this church because they were black. This is the psychological cost of racism.<br /><br />Racism kills all in a community one way or another. It's brutality wants us to live in fear, separated and hateful. I experienced the opposite in Charleston. I found myself within a community that will heal. A community that still holds the hope of freedom and love. Resilience is palpable. I return to my car with no words.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">As I drive north I smell the scent of the sanctuary flowers on my clothes. I believe it is a reminder of Myra Thompson, the hope for justice and compassion, and a reminder that as an ally I have much to do to change a culture of hate and violence to one of acceptance and a right to live with the love of self, our family, our church, and our community. All taken from Myra Thompson and the other victims.<br /><br />May we mourn and act.<br /><br />Blessings, CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-56142796403112173012015-06-23T13:18:00.000-07:002015-06-23T13:18:05.565-07:00Summer is Here<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">Dear Ones,<br /><br />Summer is most definitely here. This will be my third summer in Florida and I am pleased to say I think I've adapted to the heat....somewhat! As every summer I will spend a few weeks at our home in New York. I am leaving for New York on June 30. Richard will follow two weeks later. My cousin is flying here from New York and we will drive back together. I plan on seeing friends along the way and will stop to visit the AME Congregation in South Carolina. It's an important stop for me. I simply must bare witness to this racist tragedy and worship and mourn with its people. <br /><br />I will likely return earlier than planned, as I always do. I am one to recognize when I've had enough vacation and move on. I know that it has a been a joy for the last couple of years to return to the beaches and the home we've made in Florida. I do love it here.<br /><br />In my absence please do email me or call my cell phone if something big is happening or you find yourself struggling. Its no bother. The Rev. Kenneth Claus is covering for me this summer and is on call. If you need Rev. Ken please call the office to get his contact info. He's a delightful and no-nonsense minister. I know he will take care of you. <br /><br />I will be sure to send a letter each month to the Congregation. I'm reminded of each of you over the summer when I'm browsing in book stores and see a certain title, sitting with art or watching a film that I know you would love, and many other reminders. I am returning to the pulpit September 6, the official beginning of our church year. I am excited for all that we have planned for you. An exciting music program, multigenerational programming, new child and youth programs-watch for the printed brochures this week!.<br /><br />We've also hired a new Nursery Staff/Teacher. Her name is Regina Baez and you will be impressed with her. Regina and her children might volunteer at the Feeding Frenzy this Saturday. Please make her feel welcome. She will be in the nursery every Sunday over the summer. What a year we will have. Until then do show up on Sundays -- there is a diverse music program and diverse speakers. <br /><br />Personnel email addresses will change effective July 1, 2015:<br /></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Rev. CJ McGregor, minister ministeruupb@gmail.com</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Barbara Hatzfeld, office administrator uniuni2@att.net (NO CHANGE)</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Beth Mathews, Child and Youth Programs cypuupb@gmail.com</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Willie Nelson, sexton sextonuupb@gmail.com</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Regina Baez, nursery staff/teacher nurseryuupb@gmail.org</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: small;">Music Staff TBD musicuupb@gmail.com</span></span></span><br /><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"></span></span><span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><br />We will also begin using a new letterhead on July 1, 2015. I've attached a copy. Be sure to look top to bottom. Maybe its just me who gets excited by such things...but you should be aware. Thank you Larry Stauber for the art.<br /><br />My summer contact info:<br />cell 508.736.3361<br />email ministeruupb@gmail.com<br /><br />Be safe. Be Cool. Blessings to you. Rev. CJ<br /><br /><br /></span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-87464873078227436462015-05-18T11:23:00.000-07:002015-05-18T11:23:00.807-07:00May 2015, Covenant<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">I remember the day we brought our oldest son, Antonio, for a neuro-psychological evaluation. We were told that he had a pervasive developmental disability. Richard and I were leveled. You see, when we decided to adopt children we had dreamed of being part of all the typical milestones all of our children pass through like school dances, friendships, graduations, university. In that moment all of it was taken away and each year as Antonio grew we felt the loss of the milestones he was missing in the moment. We needed to be the parents we never wanted to be or expected to be. We were disappointed. At the time of Antonio's diagnosis we were given the opportunity to "give him back" to return as a ward of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. We never considered it. Despite our devastating disappointment we had made a commitment to Antonio and to our family. We trusted each other and decided to see it through. We could never step away from this disappointment, or our son. Today Antonio is a challenging young adult but is happy and content. <br /><br />At our last new member recognition ceremony I added a few words to the welcome I deliver to those wanting to join the Congregation. I told them that we, the Congregation, will disappoint them and that they will disappoint us. This is an important truth about life. Being imperfect, we all will be disappointed by and will disappoint those we love and those we share community with. A common human response to disappointment is to pull back or step away from people, circumstances, and communities. I know this is something I'm mindful of in my responses. It's important to remember that disappointment is inevitable but we do have control over how we manage it. It's healthy to pause and assess the situation and feel and process the emotion. It's healthier to pause and and recognize the love and affection we have for the source of our disappointment and our agreements we've made to see it through. <br /><br />Unitarian Universalism is differentiated from other faiths based on our commitment to being covenantal versus creedal. If we fall out of covenant with one another, others we love, or a community we seek to return to covenant rather than banish ourselves as a creedal faith would. My family covenanted long ago to remain a family come what may. We've fallen out of covenant hundreds of times with one another and we've re-covenanted hundreds of times because of our love and commitment to one another. We agreed to be part of this family and remain a family and so we do -- imperfectly.<br /><br />Blessings, CJ</span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-526431829056330375.post-32175456149976003832015-04-30T13:11:00.000-07:002015-04-30T13:11:07.484-07:00Let it Be a Dance<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;"><span style="font-size: x-large;">S</span>erious, strange,or silly? In the original 1984 movie <i>Footloose </i>we journeyed with a rebellious teen who moved to a small town where rock music and dancing were banned. The movie portrays the timeless struggle between innocent pleasure and rigid morality. I offer you this as a segue into one of the most interesting things I've heard during coffee hour since I arrived in the summer of 2013.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">YOUR MINISTER HAS BANNED DANCING IN OUR SERVICES! Serious, strange, or silly? Silly. Tis' silly but allows me to reiterate some things I'm quite serious about. I stated during a Teaching Thursday program weeks ago that I preferred, my personal preference, services where there is no dancing. It's a remnant of my Catholic upbringing. I congratulate service leaders who include such things in worship. I don't have the chutzpah! <br /><br />Why am I entertaining and acknowledging this silliness? It is because I'm serious about not letting silly become something that divides us. It is because, as you learned at the Teaching Thursday where I answered questions, I am an open book and believe things should be named before they become larger. It is because I need you to know that I am OK, I'm here, and am staying here at the will of the Board and Congregation. Silliness will never turn my love for you, even when I'm the one causing the silliness! I won't let that happen to us. <br /><br />My personal preferences influence decisions, but I never will -- nor should I be -- afforded the ultimate say about many things, especially dancing in the sanctuary! My personal preferences should never be turned into edicts. This Congregation has had some experiences with that type of ministry. I assure you it's not mine.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">The expression of our faith takes many forms and our worship is richer for it. Will you see the Dance of Seven Veils during my services? No. But you will come back next week and find poetry, art, and dance offered by another service leader, like yesterday when the youth danced with members of the assembled Congregation. Isn't that wonderful?</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">The minister is never the single source of transcendence and inspiration. This is our beautiful tradition; innovative worship and a polity that gives the minister the role to guide not rule. I honor both. Join me in singing hymn #311 Let It Be a Dance.<br /> </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="font-family: "Trebuchet MS",sans-serif;">In faith, Rev CJ </span></span>Unknownnoreply@blogger.com0